With the good of life also comes the bad
We all wish life could always be good, fun, etc but sadly that cannot always be. I was visiting my grandmother yesterday - she is 89, with Alzheimer's, Dementia, etc and now has pneumonia which she is struggling with.
It is so unbelievably depressing when you see a family member who was so strong minded, caring and loving to be reduced to the state she is in. I could not have asked for a better grandmother!!!!
As of now she is still making it (there is serious doubt with the doctors) but I find myself wondering which is better - be selfish and have her here and suffering or lose my final grandparent but have her at peace.
I know it will eventually happen but.....
So if your grandparents are still alive and kickin - give em a call and let them know you love them.
posted by birdman @ 12:31 PM
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My grandmother is also 89, and her mind is still clear, but she is blind, near deaf, and can no longer walk. Her bones are so brittle that she broke some vertabrae tying her shoe. Her body is her prison. She tells us often "don't grow old." My mother thinks that's a ridiculous thing to say, but I think it's damn fine advice.
I lost my grandmother in April, and it's so hard. I'm sorry, man. Sorry that this is your time to experience that pain, and generally sorry we all have to go through it.
my grandmother said the exact same thing "Dont grow old". Wouldn't it be nice if we stayed young.....
Thanks for the thoughts!!!
I've got one grandparent left, and its been that way for nearly 20 years. My In addition to getting more brittle, my Grandmother has gotten increasingly bitter and negative. That alone is reason enough to listen to their advice.
That being said, I'm sorry to hear of your situation Birdman...
Ditto, Birdman. I'm sorry how things are with your Grandma. I don't have any grandparents left, but the memories I do have of them all are fond ones. Keep those good memories with you always and let go of the rest. "Don't grow old" has many meanings - but I think staying young at heart and keeping active are keys. We all too easily fall into the routine of getting older and losing our spirit to move.
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